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Thursday, February 22, 2024

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 All Students:  Be sure to read the entries for this group --February writers).  Everyone is required to comment on at least THREE different pieces of writing.  You must submit comments on Canvas (for each one, include the name of the author and the title of their piece, and then your positive, specific comment ) by Friday, March 8 on Canvas.


 

Remember, comments must be positive, original, personal, supportive, constructive, and SPECIFIC.  No "Good Job!" comments, unless you follow that with specific things you thought were done well in the piece.  Show them you actually took the time to read and enjoy their work!

"Love Letter " by Ricanel L

 

According to the Oxford Dictionary,” Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a wide range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It is often described as a deep affection, attachment, or strong bond between individuals. Love can manifest in various forms, such as romantic love, platonic love, familial love, and self-love.”

 

Romantic love typically involves intense emotions, passion, and a desire for intimacy with a romantic partner. Platonic love refers to deep connections and affection between friends, while familial love involves strong bonds and affection within families. Self-love is appreciating oneself, and promoting a healthy sense of self-worth and well-being.

 

 

I am currently experiencing the profound sensation of love with the person I share a deep “connection. Despite facing some challenges in expressing my feelings, I am proud to declare that I am deeply in love with my person.

 

To my person

Articulating this emotion is admittedly difficult for me. However, loving you has been a unique experience that surpasses anything I have felt before. You are my soulmate, my love, my best friend, my boyfriend, and someone with whom I confidently envision a future. I must admit that I have used the words “Love” and “ I love you” with others in the past. Yet, my love for you is incomparable; it's a sentiment I have never encountered before. Choosing to love you was and continues to be the best decision I have ever made. From our initial conversations to introducing you to my family. Every moment has been a cherished experience I have longed for since falling in love with you.

 

Although the distance between us is greater than we have imagined, we overlook the issue and make up for it. You travel 50 miles to visit me and make time to get to know my family which gives me reassurance to our relationship making sure we respect and take our decisions seriously. I have lived to appreciate your compassion and dedication towards me and familiarizing your way into my family. Thank you for letting me love you and welcoming me to your family.

 

Through the depressing distance in our relationship, I’ve come to understand that no matter how awful the physical separation is, one can develop profound trust and love for their significant other. Over the duration spent with my partner, I've acquired the ability to extend love to individuals even when they are far away. I have also learned to value the moments when they are around me. Therefore embrace the time shared with your loved ones, relishing every moment, and charging the present before it becomes a memory.

 

Learn to love from a distance.

 

 

"Monster High Dolls" by Keira A

My older sister, Kylie, and I are only 2 years apart so we have always been super close. We would always play with our toys together and would always fight for which Just Dance character we would be. But, there was one group of toys that we would quickly run towards and enjoy our time with the most, and that was our Monster High Dolls. The bright colored hair and the intricate outfits on each doll was so intriguing to us. Our lives were so carefree and simple, all we wanted to do was play with these odd dolls and make our own fantasy world where they could fly, swim, and even have super powers. I used to dream that I was a Monster High, I would have purple skin and green hair and would wear cool outfits with high heels every day. Kylie and I would sit for hours upon hours in our pajamas; just watching the movies of these dolls going on adventures and hanging out at their highschool together. I never thought that we would grow out of this Monster High phase. I always thought that when we got older we would still play with these dolls and stay up all night watching their movies. But suddenly years passed and times changed. Kylie was doing her makeup instead of watching Monster High with me and I was slowly starting to stop dreaming about having green hair and going on adventures with my fellow ghoul friends. I started dreaming about growing up and living on my own in another state or even a whole other country. We stopped going into that play room and began staying in our bedrooms, fantasizing about dating and being a teenager in high school. When we would talk about Monster High it was always about the past and how we were obsessed with them so long ago. Time proceeded to move forward and I started to forget about the idea that I even played with dolls, let alone remember what they would wear or what their names were. Not short after forgetting all about Monster High, my parents made the decision that we must move to a bigger, newer home. All that I could think about now was how I was going to have my own room where I could decorate and customize to my liking. When we left we left that playroom behind, along with the many boxes of Monster High dolls that my sister and I adored for so long. However, I never noticed that these dolls were no longer with us, and were now in the hands of their new owners until I began reminiscing about my childhood this past year. This new home did not have a playroom that we could enjoy in our pajamas, there are now no toys or dolls in sight. All of the intricate toys we had so long ago are now sold and Just Dance is in a box, slowly collecting dust in our garage as my sister and I grow older. When I was little I wanted to grow up so fast. I loved the idea of possibly having a date to a school dance or going to the mall with my friends once I got old enough. But now that I have been living this highschool life, I now daydream about little me playing with those bizarre dolls with my sister with no care in the world other than figuring out where each one fits within our fantasy world. Oh how I wish that I could go back in time and soak in all the days and nights that I was playing with my sister in that pink playroom. Now that I am a senior, I can say that growing up is exciting but also terrifying and I believe that we should all cherish and be grateful for all the fun times we had as children. As we all grow older we forget to look back and remind ourselves of the good old times when we would play in our own little worlds. All of those laughs, dances, and games that we played as kids will quickly turn into faded memories that we reminisce on as we enter the real world as young adults. Sadly, we can’t go back in time and revisit the days where we all were so intertwined with our imaginations. So try and not grow up so fast because our young years are the ones we will always look back on and wish that we could relive.

“The Key To Success” by Miah T.


“Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is us, and becoming all that we can be” Zig Ziglar.

 

When someone asks you to envision your most successful self what do you picture? Some people would say that they desire to be rich and to live in a mansion. Others would say to have their dream job. Some might envision a large and happy family. But what is success? And can we truly ever define it?

 

By definition success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. In my opinion a better definition of success is staying true to a deeper sense of purpose and achieving a desired vision and set goals.

 

The beauty of success is that everyone’s idea of it is different. There is no right or wrong way to be successful, and success is not linear. There are many factors that go into a person's view on success such as , their upbring, culture. values, and experinces. These are all  major influences on what one might define as success. We all have unique experinces in life that cause us to all have different values and place importance on different things. What you value may differ from what another person values. The things we value motivate us to reach our idea of success.

 

It is common to compare your success to others, and get caught up in this loop of feeling less than or underachieving. It's easy to see others succeeding and feel like we are not achieving anything in comparison. We compare our success all the time, (almost subconsciously). I compare my success to my friends all the time. I have friends who are winning awards for their art. I have other friends who are excelling academically and getting into prestigious universities.  The more and more I see people accomplishing big things the more and more I feel like I’m doing nothing significant in comparison. But the more I dwelled on the topic, I began to realize two  important things. 1.  Just because you are focused on different things doesn't mean you are falling behind. And 2. Success means different things for different people, so comparing your success to another person is pointless.

 

Success is not solely based on accolades, money, or status. It is a combination of hard work and individual beliefs. Success is personal, and it is important to remember every individual is successful in some way shape or form.

 

 

Works Cited

 

Hamilton, Julie. "Discover why your success should look different from everyone else's." Linkedin, 22 Sept. 2023, inkedin.com/pulse/really-success-something-else-discover-why-your-looks-julie-hamilton#:~:text=Remember%2C%20everyone's%20definition%20of%20success,and%20see%20what%20comes%20up. Accessed 16 Feb. 2024.

 

Rose, Steve. "The True Meaning of Success." Steve Rose PHD Counseling, steverosephd.com/the-true-meaning-of-success/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2024.

 

"Success." Dictionary.com, www.dictionary.com/browse/success. Accessed 16 Feb. 2024.

 

"Sticks & Stones" by Madilyn R


 

It all started in Elementary School when I was in third grade, I was just 8 years old. From what I remember my elementary school experience was just like any other kids experience. Playing in the playground, running around at recess, doing all the things kids would do, except for me all that excitement turned into  my biggest fear in the third grade. One time when I was at recess a boy made a comment making fun of my appearance. I remember how I felt in that moment it was the first time I had ever experienced humiliation except I didn’t know exactly what that feeling was. Later that day during lunch the boy came up to me and made another comment about my hair, I walked out of the cafeteria to a pair of steps where me and my best friend would sit. When I got home later that day I cried in my room because I didn’t understand what happened. After that day the same boy continued to make comments about me and soon his friends and two girls in my class started to as well. I was very  clueless as to what bullying was and I remember being confused as to what I did to all these people to make them act so cruel towards me. There was a saying my mom told me everyday before she dropped me off at school and it was “Treat others how you would like to be treated.” Every time I would receive these mean comments I imagined my mom saying that phrase to me and it made me wonder what I did wrong. After a while the comments started to affect me and I asked my mom if she could start to straighten my hair and made the decision to start wearing new clothes. The next day I decided to wear my hair down, straightened, and I had no accessories in my hair. For my outfit I decided to just wear solid colored clothes instead of my usual bright colored shirts and pants. My mom started to notice a change I always loved to wear my hair in different styles with bows to match my bold outfits. I told my mom what had been going on and she confronted the school and the boy had gotten in trouble. After this interaction I thought things were finally going to change and for once in a long time I was excited to go to school again. Little did I know that the next day it had only made things worse. I had a best friend named Alya and she was the only person and school I had told these things to, and I found out she telling the boy everything I told her. This was also the first time I had experienced the feeling of betrayal. The next school year I had a new class and picked up a new hobby to keep myself distracted. I decided to join the band class my school offered and made some new friends along the way. The bullying still continued  but it wasn’t as severe ever since I had changed my appearance and tried to stay out of the way. Progressing through the year I started to adjust to the  bullying comments because I was tired of letting them get to me.  When I finished 5th grade I made the decision to go to a different middle school rather then the school that was recommended. I seen this as an opportunity for a fresh start and a way to start a new chapter in my life, and that is exactly what happened. I never experienced bullying or anything again. When I had joined that band class as an escape it lead me to learning 4 other new instruments and introduced me into a new passion and something I still love to do today. Bullying also helped shaped me as a person it made me into a  well built person. It taught me how to deal with my emotions,feelings and to not care about what others think or say. Although it came with many life lessons learned. Being able to go through such a difficult time at a young age helped me become a mature, and self sufficient growing up. Although the bullying had a major impact on me when I was younger I am grateful for all the things I learned along the way. Looking back now I wish I could give my third grade self a hug, and tell her that Senior year me now is doing so much better and nothing like that will ever happen again.

"What is a Sikh? " by Sidaq R

 

Sikhism- A believer in a religion of India that was founded about 1500 and that believes in one God and rejects idols and caste

 

I believe in the teachings of Sikhism. Sikhi is the fifth largest religion in the world, it teaches values such as service to humanity, generosity, and compassion. Growing up, I always admired the stories my grandparents would tell me about Sikhi and the influence we have had on the world. As I became influenced by the Western culture, that admiration started to fade away, and the stories became a faint memory. I grew up in a community with the same two religious backgrounds, Christianity and Catholicism. It made it hard for me to create a connection with my religion as I was so familiar with the faiths that surrounded me. It was challenging explaining to a 7-year-old what a Sikh was, and it did not mean feeling “unwell.” Sikh Coalition reports, “There are an estimated 500,000 Sikhs living in the United States.”

 I visited my local Gurdwara (temple) on a Sunday morning when I was twelve. As I was talking to a few kids around my age, I quickly realized they did not speak Punjabi, and they knew less about the Sikhi values than me. I was offended that the future generation of Punjabi and Sikhs could not talk with the language our ancestors fought so hard for and the language our Granth Sahib (sacred scripture of Sikhism) was written. I quickly decided that it was my responsibility and duty to share the word of our Gurus and teach our blessed language. Since that visit, I began frequently volunteering and tutoring seven/eight-year-olds on how to speak and write Punjabi. I created a curriculum emphasizing leading on a legacy millions sacrificed for and the importance of preserving our cultural heritage. Sikhi has taught me three principles: Naam Japna (focus on God), Kirat Karni (honest living), and Vand Shakna (sharing with others). These three values have been instilled in me from a very young age, becoming a guide to my purpose in this world. Now my purpose is to teach these three principles not only to my future children but also the future generations of Sikhi to come.

Preserving languages and religion also preserves heritage. This is extremely crucial as it is an important way to pass on knowledge from past to future generations. My religion, culture, and heritage are unique and for some people `unusual,” but as the future generations, it is our responsibility to ensure we spread those views. Sikhism has played a pivotal role in shaping Indian history, art, and literature. As a first-generation student, it can be difficult to stay in good contact with my heritage. Especially when everyone knows numerous people who follow the same path as them, but the beauty of heritage is originality. In order to look after that originality, I have learned that Sikhism has its own beauty that I have learned to embrace.

 

 

 

 

" We’re Just Friends" by Rylee S


“We’re just friends,” I said, trying to act annoyed. He and I had grown closer in the year since we met but he was dating my friend and even in seventh grade girl code matters. As time passed he and I grew more comfortable and I was always there to console him when she would hurt him, which was often. Middle school is weird. Anyway, later that school year she made him cut me off, which was understandable until she inevitably broke up with him. When I checked my phone on a soccer practice water break, I couldn’t help but smile when I saw his name pop up. We hadn’t talked in months and though he was upset, I knew it was for the best that they had broken up. She also broke off our friendship, one that I thought would last forever, but as we all know people change. That summer we began to FaceTime every night and even though there was no hint of anything romantic it was nice to have him to rely on. From the beginning, I knew that he was someone I needed in my life, in whatever way he could be there.

 

“We’re just friends…” I utter, failing to hide the hurt in my voice. It was the summer before High School and because of COVID, we hadn’t seen each other in months. Though we talked daily I was still unsure when he suggested we go to the mall together. The nervous excitement was bouncing off of me while my mom drove me to Victoria Gardens, playfully teasing me about going on my first date. This wasn’t a date, right? I tried to push any doubts out of my mind and focus on reality: I was seeing my best friend for the first time in forever and it was going to be fun. We walked and talked and ate and laughed. He was taller. Much taller. Had he always been this tall? He started to walk closer to me, our hands brushing as we walked past the crowds of high schoolers. For a moment I thought he may even kiss me, but the moment passed and after what felt like half an hour my mom was back to pick me up. I was buzzing with excitement and hope for the future. That night we talked and he apologized for flirting with me and said he was just confused and bored. I assured him that it was okay but my heart started to break, just slightly. I made myself accept that he would always be my friend. Just my friend.

 

“We’re just friends!” I blurted defensively, urging my cheeks to stop blushing.

I had uttered this statement countless times in the past four years, but it was growing more difficult to deny. Staring at the photo of me asleep on his shoulder after junior homecoming it was hard not to smile. He was my best friend, but a piece of me always yearned for more. Now, however, was not the time to reflect on the years of late-night calls, awkwardly cute (?) middle school flirting, and true companionship I had found with this boy. Now was the time to escape my friends so I could recount the night. Maybe I was just tired. Really tired. That has to be why I decided to sit so close to him and let my head rest on his shoulder. Not because of how close we got in the arcade before my best friend came over to tease us. Or how right it felt holding his hand leaving the dance floor in the gym. I attempt to wipe the smile off my face and get some sleep, having hope for more had only left me with pain and confusion in the past.

 

“We’re just friends,” I say, failing to hide the grin that is attempting to escape my mouth. How could I deny something that was so obviously untrue? After homecoming, we started to talk even more, if that was possible. He had been my closest friend for years but once I began to admit to myself that I wanted more, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. When we’d end our calls before bed, I would lay there smiling and picturing his warm smile and bright eyes. At school, if we weren’t together, I’d be texting him to complain about my assignments or fill him in on any gossip. Even when I was at my friend's house, I’d ask him what he was doing and hope he’d accept the offer to join us. This walk between friendship and flirting continued until the day he finally accepted the offer to come over and play video games with my friends and I. The whole night we were glued to each other, and though we had never kissed or even hugged, we could both tell that there was something different going on between us. At the end of the night when he walked me to my car in the rain, he finally kissed me. After that day we never looked back.

 

“We were best friends!” We now say whenever someone asks how we met. He is still my best friend but he is so much more. I would not have survived High School, or even middle school, without him by my side. Though there was pain, confusion, and miscommunication in the past it is for the best that we get together when we did. Our friendship survived broken friend groups, relationships with other people, distance, and petty fighting. There is no doubt in my mind that our relationship will survive much more, and I will forever be grateful that we were just friends until we weren’t.

 

 

 

"It’s Always Funny Until It’s You" by Jacob W



“It’s always funny until it’s you”

That’s what my friend told me as we walked past a couple cuddling on the bench outside of Victoria Gardens, I just laughed at them. He himself had a girlfriend, they’d constantly fight and many days he would show up to practice visibly distressed after a dispute with her. What would give it away the most was how hard he laid his cleat into your ankle out of frustration. With a size 10 cleat imprint on my right ankle I thought to myself that I would never put myself in that position, to have my emotions manipulated by another person. Besides, everyone around me always said “Focus on school, focus on soccer, girls are a distraction”. But I always felt a little bit empty chasing those two things. It almost felt silly to think that’s all that I had.

That night I FaceTimed her as I usually did. She had been my best friend for years at this point and we’d call almost every night. Only time we’d stop is when she got a boyfriend, and out of what I thought was respect I’d stick to myself. Those were always the loneliest times because she was the only one I’d ever confide in. She always managed to make me feel heard, whether it was something important like family drama or something futile like my favorite soccer team winning. We talked about our days, any updates on people we were talking to, and the main event of the week which would be our junior homecoming. I still hadn’t decided whether or not I wanted to go but the desire to have a “normal high school experience” was reinforced by my mom and friends. They didn’t take into account the year before where my date had embarrassingly abandoned me at the dance, just another reason not to entertain the idea of a girlfriend.

I talked to her and she offered for me to come with her and her friends. Eventually I came to the decision to take upon her offer. I rushed home from my game that day and threw on my dark blue shirt and black slacks, the uniform that would hopefully keep me camouflaged in the rest of the crowd tonight. The night started out normal as we just went to dinner and headed to the school. As soon as we stepped into the gym it turned into a scene from La La Land. Bright lights barely illuminate the faces of many of my classmates. The smell of sweat from the freshman in the mosh pit and the sound of Mr.WorldWide echoed off the walls. A sudden change of music led me to her.  In the middle of the dance floor her eyes locked with mine, the light from the moon turning her brown eyes into a fiery orange. Every slow song that came on made me think that, if by any miracle, we just might kiss. We danced all night until they told us to leave. I led her by my hand as we pranced out of the gym like little kids, giggling and smiling. I’m surprised she didn’t let go in disgust because of how sweaty my palms were from my inevitable nervousness.

We went with the original group we came with to a bowling alley. Everyone else was near sleeping while she and I played in the arcade just becoming more energetic as the night progressed. I attempted to establish my dominance in every game we played trying to impress her. She just laughed, I’m pretty sure she let me win.

The party bus finally arrived to take us home. That’s when we crashed, slow music playing, everyone had their eyes closed except me. We were about twenty minutes away when she put her head on my shoulder. Suddenly a burning sensation in my heart was aroused and we became those two people on the bench. It was that moment that I understood exactly what my friend meant. After years of what I tried to play off as “just friends” was, without warning, turning into something greater than I could’ve ever imagined.

Eventually I made her my girlfriend. What I prayed many nights for was finally answered, no more loneliness. She became my other half. Now even when I’m sad I don’t feel lonely. Getting to live out a fairytale with her is something I never could’ve fathomed.

Today we sat outside of the school, holding hands and cuddling. Kids walk past and stare and I wish they will find out that “It’s always funny until it’s you”.

"My Love, the Moon" by Gabrielle N

 

Long before I was born, the moon disappeared. No one knows how or why, but we’ve all come to accept it.

            As of me writing this, I graduated from college a few years ago. I didn’t know what the moon really looked like. Nobody in this century did. We just relied on blurry pictures and stories from the ones long ago.

            On the first day of my junior year of college, I stepped into my English class and scanned the room for any familiar faces to no avail. There was an empty seat in the back so I gladly took it. A few minutes later, someone seemingly glided into the classroom. They had this aura that made them look as though they were glowing and you couldn’t help but look at them in wonder and awe. The way they carried themselves with such poise and grace made me think they were royalty. They had dark skin and even darker eyes that wildly contrasted their wavy white hair. They were, in every sense of the word, enchanting.

            After a few seconds of admiring them, I quickly turned my attention to my phone so as to not seem like I was weirdly staring at them. “Hello,” a voice said. I looked up in the direction of the voice and, lo and behold, it was them. Their silky smooth voice made the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end. A small “hi” was all I could muster up. They gently smiled and asked if they could sit in the seat next to me. I simply nodded and that one fateful interaction changed my life.

            Once we graduated college, we were officially dating and decided to move into an apartment together. It was a small two bedroom apartment but the second bedroom eventually stopped being used. We had those cheesy pet names for each other, but our favorite to call each other was “my love.” We were excited about our future and constantly talked about all the things we could do. We were never able to do the one we wanted most though.

            One night, I was bored, so I decided to humor myself and watch conspiracy theories about “where the moon really went.” The theories ranged from aliens taking it for themselves to the moon being an illusion the entire time. My personal favorite was “the moon was made of cheese so space rats ate it.” Anyway, after an hour or so, my love walked in and laughed at what I was watching. “Those idiots are all wrong,” they said. “I believe the moon decided to find a new life.”

            I softly laughed at their statement. “Careful now, you’re starting to sound like those idiots.” I joked. They merely smiled and walked away as if they didn’t leave me questioning their stance on the moon. I was done watching conspiracy theories, so I decided to join them in the living room where I found them looking longingly at the night sky.

            “Do you believe in fate, my love?”

            Their question surprised me. “Uh…yeah I guess,” I said hesitantly. “Why?”

            Without moving their gaze, they replied, “Well I do. I believe fate brought us together for a reason.”

            At this point, I was extremely confused and a little concerned if I’m being honest. “Why are you saying all this?”

            They finally looked at me and smiled that sweet smile I fell in love with. “My life has been full of experiences, but none could ever compare to you,” They then walked over to me and gently took my hands. “You, I will cherish forever.”

I was speechless. My immediate thought was that they were breaking up with me in the kindest way possible, but it felt like it was something deeper than that. Before I could even make a sound, they placed a kiss on my forehead and started for the door.

“Wait,” I began. “Where are you going? Why are you leaving?” I could feel tears forming in my eyes.

With the door now wide open, they turned back to me and said, “I wanted to live a full life, and now I have.”

That was the last time I ever saw my love. For a few seconds, I was motionless, unable to even breathe as my whole world came crashing down. My legs worked faster than my brain and I bolted after them, hoping I could catch them before they left for good.

I wasn’t fast enough.

That’s it.

My love was gone.

My world was gone.

I cried the hardest I’ve ever cried that day. My legs finally gave out from beneath me and I collapsed to the ground. At this point, I was sobbing hysterically and my mind was racing with questions. A flood of memories washed over me, causing me to cry even harder. I don’t remember how long I was on the ground for.

Suddenly, a beacon of light was shining above me. Through my tears, I could make out a bright circle in the sky. It wasn’t the sun, but I knew immediately what it was.

The moon…it returned. It illuminated the dark night sky with a light no one has seen in a very long time. It was so beautiful, I couldn’t look away. People began to stir and realized what was happening. Some were scared and paranoid that it was the end times, while others were like me, taken aback by its sheer beauty. No one really knew how it came back, not even to this day. It’s still a mystery that I believe scientists will never solve. But I know why it returned to the sky.

The moon has finally lived a full life.

"The Art of Being Alone" by Savanna D

 

Definition for “Alone” : having no one else present

In such a technology and civilian involved society there’s an assumption that the average person is full of entertainment and thus rarely ever feels unwanted or alone. In a survey conducted by PBS, it was found that around 60% of Americans reported feeling lonely on a daily basis. This statistic applies a very negative connotation in terms of how many civilians nowadays don’t know how to live a happy life unless they are surrounded by other people as constant forms of entertainment. Personally, I believe that being alone can be a very rewarding and relaxing experience, it’s just a matter of if you know what to do with the time you’re given.

Right after junior year had concluded I decided that I was going to spend the summer working on myself and hanging out with the people I love. I began to quickly realize that I had developed a bad habit of relying on other people to bring me happiness in my everyday life. If I wasn’t spending the day with friends or hanging out with my cousins, I often felt very alone. Seeing my reliance on others for entertainment, I worked to find a balance between being around others and being able to have fun when I was by myself. I spent some days out of my week during the summer going shopping by myself or going to run errands that I needed to get done. I feel like what helped the most is reflecting on activities I enjoyed partaking in and just doing it as an individual instead of with other people. This new perspective has helped me grow a lot more as a person, and enjoy life on a much more mentally healthy level. I came to the awareness that if I was able to be my best self when no one was around, when I did hang out with others I would be a more confident person.

The statistic that the age group that feels the most alone is the age group of people “18-22”, the young adult category. This is the age group that us as high school seniors are going to enter in the next few years. We’re all gonna leave the structure of having a high school life and moving onto careers or going off to college. At this point in life it is more important than ever to develop an awareness of our individual self as we’re exposing ourselves to a whole world of new environments surrounded by new people that we may not have close connections with. I can only imagine how lonely it must feel to be in a new city while attending college, far from home, on a campus where there are so many unknowns. It can be essential for a person’s mental health to establish a routine of tasks they enjoy doing alone. In the first few months of being in a new environment you may not know many people, but being able to work on yourself and develop a life without the reliance of others is a great place to start.

Now viewing the word “alone”, it no longer has a negative connotation, but rather an opportunity for personal growth and life advancements. It’s all about perspective and how you choose to tackle a certain situation. With perseverance and a strong drive for self improvement, regardless of what situation you find yourself in in the future, being okay with being alone can set you up for much greater opportunities than many.

Sources:

Yang, John. “Why Americans Are Lonelier and Its Effects on Our Health.” PBS, Public Broadcasting Service, 8 Jan. 2023, www.pbs.org/newshour/show/why-americans-are-lonelier-and-its-effects-on-our-health#:~:text=You%20know%2C%20some%20surveys%20reveal,from%20a%20public%20health%20perspective.  

Elias, Mark. “49 Loneliness Statistics: How Many People Are Lonely?” Discovery ABA: At-Home & Center-Based ABA Therapy (No Wait List), Discovery ABA, 26 Feb. 2023, www.discoveryaba.com/statistics/loneliness#:~:text=Young%20adults%20between%20the%20ages,death%20by%20up%20to%2050%25 .

 

" Parentification" by Hannah R

 

I am a victim of parentification. While that sentence sounds scary, it’s actually transformed me into who I am today. The U.S. Department of Education describes parentification as “the process of role reversal whereby a child or adolescent is obliged to act as a parent to their own parent or sibling.” More simply, parentification occurs when a child takes on parental responsibilities, whether it's doing household chores or giving emotional support. This means that parents rely on their child to fulfill tasks that are beyond their age level. Sometimes, parents directly ask the child to help, or the child volunteers because they want to feel closer to the parent. In other cases, parents unintentionally encourage this behavior by rewarding it with praise or extra attention, or by not giving negative feedback when the child takes on adult roles. In essence, parentification happens when a child steps into the role of a parent within the family. According to the National Alliance for Caregiving, about 1.4 million children and adolescents in the United States experience parentification, so experiences can vary. In my case, I was the oldest daughter of 3 boys, I forced myself to grow up to be there for my brothers when my parents couldn’t. I began making meals for them, helping with homework, bathing them, and teaching them right from wrong. However, as soon as I took on the role of “3rd parent”, more and more things became expected of me and I was held to a higher standard. My parents felt as if I could handle life on my own so they backed off and my responsibility grew. While it was extremely overwhelming, I consider my experience with parentification a blessing. We all need to mature at some point and get ready for the real world, some just prepare a little early. Most times, pressure has a negative connotation, but without it, we would be living life with no growth. By taking on adult responsibilities, kids can learn important life qualities like independence, perseverance, and maturity. Children's ability to make decisions are sharpened as they learn how to handle challenging circumstances and find efficient solutions. Taking on caring responsibilities also helps people develop empathy and compassion because they learn how to recognize and meet the needs of others, which strengthens family bonds. When parents and kids work together to manage responsibilities and solve challenges, parentification can benefit a child in the long run. Their feeling of power and self-efficacy can be developed, strengthening their confidence and sense of identity. Parentification has positively molded me into the person I am today. Being forced to mature faster has pushed my goals and ambitions far beyond what is deemed “appropriate for my age”. As I reflect on my journey, I can't help but wonder: could my childhood have been different? What if I had been allowed to just be a kid, free from the weight of adult responsibilities? While I may never know the answer, I am grateful for the lessons learned and the person I have become as a result.

 

Work Cited:

 

Chase, Nancy D. “Burdened Children: Theory, Research, and Treatment of Parentification.” ERIC, Sage Publications, 2455 Teller Road, Thousand Oaks, CA 91320 (paperback: ISBN-0-7619-0764-5, $24.95; hardcover: ISBN-0-7619-0763-7, $52.95). Tel: 805-499-0721; Fax: 805-499-0871; e-mail: order@sagepub.com; Web site: http://www.sagepub.com., 30 Nov. 1998, eric.ed.gov/?id=ED441561.

Holland, Author:  Maggie. “Parentification: What Is a Parentified Child?” Choosing Therapy, www.choosingtherapy.com/parentification/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2024.

Staff, Newport Academy. “What Is Parentification? Signs of a Parentified Child.” Newport Academy, 11 July 2023, www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/parentification/#:~:text=The%20result%20is%20a%20phenomenon,the%20United%20States%20experience%20parentification.

 

" The Impact of a Teacher" by Avery B


As a child, I always looked forward to the first day of school. It was not because of the materialistic things you desire in childhood like a new outfit, backpack, or school supplies. For me, it was always about getting to meet my teacher. Every year brought a new teacher with their own unique style and personality, and I cherished the opportunity to develop special bonds with each of them. It wasn't until I was older that I was truly able to recognize their impact that they had on me.

In the first grade, I transferred from a large public elementary school, to a much smaller, private charter school, leaving me feeling uncomfortable and unsure. As a new student meeting my teacher before the other students allowed me to form an instant connection that reassured me amidst such a scary change. When I struggled to find a friend, she was there, inviting me to eat with her until I found my footing. This small gesture made a big impact, and fostered a sense of safety and inclusion in this new school, which built up confidence within me. Though there was no obligation for her to sacrifice her lunch for me, she chose to enhance my experience, which is a memory I will cherish.

In the 4th grade, my teacher was in her first year of teaching. I watched her adaptability as she adjusted her curriculum to fit our needs. Which demonstrates the necessary fluidity that comes with teaching. Witnessing her successes and failures was inspiring, and I watched her grow into a better teacher. Our connection remained strong, even eight years later, which is a testament to the lasting impact of a devoted teacher.

This year,  I formed a new connection with a teacher after initially struggling in his class. My perspective shifted when I realized his passion and genuine care for his students. He goes beyond teaching us about the subject, by engaging in conversations with us about our lives and future goals. This new appreciation for the subject stems from his dedication to connecting with his students on a personal level, which is a quality that truly defines an amazing teacher. I have a new appreciation for the subject that I never had before.

These stories are just a few examples of the incredible ways a teacher will go above and beyond for their students. Being a teacher entails not only shaping young minds, but also being there for them in the good and bad times, creating lasting memories and truly making the classroom an oasis for learning.

            Each teacher along the way planted a new seed that fueled my passion to become a teacher. However, my personal journey towards becoming a teacher began in 6th grade when I joined my church's volunteer program. Students grades 6-12 can volunteer to engage with kids during service. In my first year I helped with 2 year-olds while under the guidance of a plethora of adult leaders. Despite being the youngest and least experienced, I felt empowered by the opportunity to be a role model for these children. By 8th grade, I had transitioned to the 4 and   5-year-olds class. It was in this time that I was able to truly develop genuine relationships with these children, challenging myself to adapt my previous learning techniques to suit their age group. Over the next two years, I grew comfortable in this role.

An opportunity arose which allowed me to make a final transition to working with elementary kids, encompassing grades kindergarten through second. I was hesitant to leave the familiar setting, however, this change made me happier than ever. I truly felt this age group was where I belonged. This change allowed me to fully commit myself to my dream of becoming an elementary school teacher!

Now, after three years with the kinder through second graders, I have transformed from a 6th grader with no experience into a 7-year volunteer and part-time employee of my church who has developed a deep love for teaching children. I can confidently say that teaching is my calling in life. My hope is to take everything I have learned from these experiences along with my previous teachers' modeling, and share them with my classroom in the future. The first day of school will always hold a special place in my heart, reminding me of the teachers who helped shape me into the person I am today.

 

" Maturity" by Sean V


Maturity, by definition, is “the state, fact, or period of being mature,” and although the societal push towards conformity in dated ideals still remains apart of many cultures, the modernization of expressed emotion, the understanding of others and new found care for our mentalites has transformed the book definition of maturity into a what would be a natural state of being. Maturity to me is the purest form of human understanding, because to be mature is to be tolerant, compassionate, wise, and altruistic. It is a state of being that can’t be reversed, once you learn how to be mature, you will retain every characteristic in some form or another. Instead of conforming to the ideas of culture, race, masculinity, femininity and sexuality, the ideals that have been so detrimental to our progress, maturity to me follows none of the laid stereotypes of manning up, being denied affectionate preferences, or being forced into any type of assigned role. In many aspects of our lives we are forced to believe one thing about maturity, each to fit an agenda, a certain tradition or an idea. As a hispanic, the culture’s take on maturity is tied in with suggested gender roles and suppressing emotion, and as many other cultures have assigned the same “requirements” to be mature, the definition of maturity has evolved over time to fit whatever the popular idea is. But, now as we have progressed from the times where those definitions were commonplace, we can see what it is to truly be mature. To have love and compassion for other people is to be mature, and as we grow and learn certain things, go through differing experiences, the same thing remains constant, we mature, not in the ways that we were forced to believe was maturity, but we mature in our understanding of human behavior. We have empathy for others and their situations, and once you can grasp how nice it feels to be genuine with another person, show the people you love and don’t love compassion, see eye to eye with an opinion you didn’t believe, that’s when the state of maturity is irreversible. And even if we grow spiteful as we age or seem ungrateful for the things we have, we still will always retain the actions and memories made when being mature, and even when the memories of being their dated ideal of maturity, to our parents or grandparents, may have caused them harm, the memories that we might have being this definition of mature; patient, understanding and kind, will always remain and forward the need to have the feeling of maturity again. Even without the implications laid upon the word maturity by the many people who used it to a backwards ideal, the word’s definition is much more than just being physically grown, as stated, without the complete understanding of people, their opinions and thoughts, as a society we would have never progressed, it’s in our compassion and willingness to value opinion that we have moved forward. The generations before have never found the perfect word to describe the value of thought or emphasis on sympathy, but in all of our history the word I think best fits our method of progression is maturity, even if by book, by family or by culture the word takes on various different meanings, the true and most honest definition is the one stated.