RING. RING. RING. I woke up to the sound of my alarm going off, and I rolled over in bed to look at the time. 6:00 am. Shoot, already late. I hopped out of bed, put on my rehearsal clothes, and stared at my reflection in the mirror. Time for another day. Yet another where I didn’t get the chance to be who I wanted to be. I found that living with yourself is not an easy task; the person I saw in that sheet of glass just didn’t show me who I knew I was. My mom was already downstairs, making me breakfast before school. “Buenos días, mama.” “Buenos días, mijo.” I inhaled my food and ran outside to throw my instrument in the trunk, and we took off. 6:30 am. I’m definitely going to be late.
As we drove along, my mom began talking to me about a Filipina girl that she had met in the hair salon the other day. “She was absolutely lovely, and beautiful to boot. Perfect dating material, I’ll take you next time,” as she nudged me and winked. Never going to tell her. How could I? I was trapped between a rock and an equally hard place. It was much easier to keep my mouth zipped. Maybe I just didn’t think the world was ready for me yet. Maybe I just wasn’t ready for myself yet. “Any girls you’re interested in at school, mijo? Who’s that girl you always hang out with?” Again with the girls. Always the girls. I just laughed it off, but she saw the look on my face. “What’s wrong?” I was ready, I was going to tell her, if I could only open my mouth and say it. A million words climbed to the tip of my tongue, but then only one came out: “nothing.”
One day. One day she can know. I had been waiting for the right time, but when would it be? 6:40 am, and we still hadn’t arrived at school. The clouds were covering the sun, which was barely beginning to rise, and the sky threatened rain. I stared out the window, watching my breath fog up the glass. I’ll graduate first. I’ll go to college, then she can know. Running away from the truth was much easier than accepting it. It never occured to me that there was the slightest possibility that she knew me better than I knew myself. Maternal instinct, had to be sharper than glass. Still, I knew that for the time being, my secrets were best kept secret. 6:45 am, and we pulled into the school driveway. “I’ll make sure to get her number for you next time!” she said. I opened the door, unlocked the trunk, pulled out my instrument, and then - “Mama, I’m gay.”
Before she had the chance to process what I had just said, I closed the trunk and bolted up the stadium access road. Why did I just say that what happened why did I say that what happened WHY. I was not ready for the truth, but it was ready for me. Tears flooded my eyes as I assembled my instrument and joined the band. Why did I say that? What just happened? I could barely breathe; the world had just collapsed, and I with it. How would I face her when I got home? My heart was pounding, my mind was going a million different directions, and then, all of a sudden, everything stopped. I took a breath. It’s going to be okay. The world didn’t collapse, it just changed a bit. I checked my phone, and saw a notification: “I’ll check and see if she has a brother.”
I have come to realize that the world can be a very scary place. The last thing anyone
wants is to be left vulnerable and alone in a place as big as planet earth. Every time we reveal
something new about ourselves, we think we are risking that chance, and it begs the question,
“Will it all be okay?” Now, I know that the answer is simple. Yes. I kept my own reality hidden
behind lock and key for so many years, and for what? To keep the rest of the world safe from
myself? The truth is that the world could do with a few changes. I look in the mirror every single
day and I think - no, I know - that I can be whoever and whatever I want to be. The world is not
planning on falling apart anytime soon, and neither am I.