⚠️Trigger
Warning⚠️ Death is discussed.
June 4, 2020. To you, the first of many dates
you’ll lay eyes on. To most, a day like any other. To me, the day Heaven
received another angel.
DEATH is a common fear that lurks in many―some more than
others. Some allow this fear to completely encumber their livelihood, while others understand the natural essence of demise.
It is everywhere. Grief, anguish, sorrow, pain, affliction, sadness, anger,
misery; all pure and justified sentiments when death makes an appearance. Yet,
we are so obsessed with death and society is practically desensitized. We
celebrate life by viewing the lifeless remains of those we once
laughed with, ate with, danced with, cried with. When a phone dies, you pull
out a charger and charge it. When a candle dies, you simply relight it or
replace it. When a beloved pet dies, you cherish the beautiful memories,
grieve, and in many cases, find comfort in another playful companion! When a
human being dies…
Carlos
Ballon del Rosario: A family man. A holy man. A witty man. A wise man. A life. A death.
I
am convinced that some are “blessed” with or “bestowed upon” a pass or 2, or
3...or 24. Maybe some are just lucky. Maybe some have cracked the code, or,
just maybe, finally discovered the fountain of youth. Why a pass? A pass to
what? A pass for what?
In
1946, 4th grade he climbs a guava
tree to pick one of those delicious guavas bore on the graceful, swaying
branches. Suddenly, he slips and has an uncomfortable trip down!
In
a year unknown, a pickpocket raids
him at the theater!
His
teenage self was beaming with pride after his older brother gifted him a brand
new Sheaffer ballpoint pen, during a visit to Quiapo with their father. As they
got off the mini-bus, they were held up and he was, now, able to call that
brand new Sheaffer ballpoint pen his, no longer. Not abnormal for 1949 Philippines.
Around
the years of 1961-1962, the driver
of the bus he is on falls asleep! The bus swerves and he veers towards the
driver. It’s great he reacted quickly, or else his throat would have been
impaled!
He
and his wife, in their car, like a ragdoll, get dragged by a guard post in 1970!
Abdominal
pain
sends him to the hospital during a long day of work! Ruptured appendicitis does
a number, does it not? His oldest son is worried to see him connected to an IV
held together with nothing but medical tapes. Sounds like the 1970s.
In
a forgotten year, he is crossing on
Epifanio de los Santos Avenue (EDSA), and a bus full of passengers, unaware of
his presence, rammed into the driver side of his car!
It
is another day in another year, and
the road is full of baha, or flooded
water. Unfortunately for him, he is not watching his step and falls directly
into a manhole!
He
and his family are on their way back home after watching a broadway show in 1992. With his youngest son in the
driver’s seat, he watches as the white car, up ahead, gets into an accident.
His son veers into the center divider and the car is spinning airborne, much
like trapeze artists!
It’s another year, and the screws of the
tire he just changed are loose!
1993, and another car accident!
It’s
the same year as the previous, and
this time he is lucky. It is not a car, but rather a train that rams and drags
him and his car.
1996, and his luck ends with another car
accident!
A
year unknown and a near-fatal car
accident!
After
attending his sister's wake (he does not have many siblings left) in October 2000, he leaves due to
discomfort. Turns out he is having an abdominal aortic aneurysm!
It’s
2001 and South Fontana is not the
safest place to be. While he walks to the ATM, a man, he thinks is his friend
pulling a prank, holds a gun to his head. Him joking, the man butts him in the
head, which is now gushing blood, and steals his wallet! He goes home.
2005, and another car accident!
His
2008 self is unable to avoid colon
cancer!
Along with a quadruple heart bypass!
It’s
2009 and 24 inches of his large
intestine is taken out!
It’s
2013 and his aortic valve
replacement surgery!
Oh
no, it’s 2019 and the car breaks
aren’t working!
Apparently,
his heart shares the same fate.
It’s
2020...he suffers a myocardial
infarction; in simpler terms, a heart attack. He is dependent on oxygen. He is
dependent on family. He is dependent on me.
He
was my Lolo Carling.
This
was his life…